Unconditional Love – How to make it happen!

by ruchikasandell · April 24, 2021

The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.
Brian Tracy

Love must be unconditional. We all want to be loved unconditionally . But is our love unconditional?

Love is the most powerful force on earth. It gives us the power to do things. Having love in our life can make a world of difference. But what really does love mean to you?

To most of us a love like that seems like a mystery. That is because it is not something that happens easily. It is not something you see often. It takes a lot of inner work to reach that place of balance where one has the power to love unconditionally.

Unconditional love primarily means love that is without conditions. There is nothing that you seek from the other.

Most of the times love is about how it must make us feel. What we want from it. How we wish the other person to be with us. What we want the other person to do for us and the list goes on.

Whereas unconditional love is selfless. It is so complete in itself that it does not even need reciprocation. It just flows effortlessly and unconsciously. It is a beautiful feeling that flowers within you. I sometimes feel my folded hands in front of god depict a sort of unconditional love. I do not seek anything from god. And despite all that happens in my life I love him and am grateful to him.

I think it is unconditional love because I feel its power.

“The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.”
Stephen Kendrick, The Love Dare

The pre-requisite to unconditional love is self love. The key is that inner calm and balance which gives you the power to love the other without any preconditions. Only when we love ourselves with all our faults can we ever love someone with all theirs.

This does not mean that we need not change but the change will also happen naturally as a result of acceptance. The beginning point is loving you as it is. When you develop this beautiful self love can you love others also without wanting to change them.

Change is a part of life and must happen naturally. When we force another to change we take away their happiness as well as our own. Unconditional love, on the other hand, is compassionate. It accepts without judgement, without question. It gives space to the other to grow and evolve, in their own way at their own pace.

Loving unconditionally is not something that you can force upon yourself. It happens automatically when you experience internal balance and self love. And when you learn to love unconditionally you yourself would feel a lot of positivity. One reason I would say that happens is because you are not having expectations you are not going to feel hurt. You are just in love and that is enough.

The most heart warming relation is perhaps that we have with our children. We go out of our way to do things for them. It is said that being a parent makes you experience unconditional love. But is our love for our children unconditional, all the time?

Sometimes I feel my love for my child is unconditional, but I cannot say it with surety yet. I am forced to question myself…. What stops me?

So when I look at all the times when something made me unhappy about what my child did, it was because I lacked the balance. Because in a state of perfect balance I feel that no matter what she does I can hug her and tell her how much I love her.

I can correct her with a smile. And that is so powerful because she responds with love too. It transforms her!

Unconditional love is a beautiful feeling. No matter how much I write I do not think I can describe the feeling and do justice to it. It cannot be verbalised perhaps and needs to be experienced.

I have seen a shift in myself by meditating which enables me to experience this beautiful feeling. If you have been feeling let down in love perhaps you need to practice some meditation and work on self love. Do read this post I wrote for beginners to meditate. You can also do some Journaling and look within to gain clarity. I have shared some lovely prompts in this post.